My right-hand woman – Chris


There’s been a lot in my blog about cancer, the cancer patient and the medical teams. However, we sometimes forget to mention the close family and friends who are also a piece of the cancer jigsaw. Without these people, it’s possible the patient would potentially have a much poorer quality of life.

I’ve had tremendous support from my immediate family and many of my friends. Some of my closest friends have almost been functioning as counsellors. I’m in a much better place than I was nearly 8 years ago but I have a lot of people to thank for some excellent progress.  My son & daughter’s families have all been there for me and although my 4 grandsons don’t quite understand the situation, their presence in my life is a great tonic.

Perhaps even more focus should be given to those who are supporting, living with and in many cases, caring for cancer patients 24/7 – often routinely taken for granted.  In particular, I’d like to focus on my wife Chris who has actually been at my side for most of my adult life.

I don’t really need that much physical care from someone else, I’m lucky in that regard.   She was there when I received the bad news and she helped me break this news to others.  She was the first person I saw when I woke up after major surgery.  Since diagnosis in 2010, she’s been watching over me when I’m not quite 100%. She was singularly responsible for getting me fit enough to be able to fulfil a long-term ambition to walk the entire 84 miles of 2000 year old Hadrian’s Wall in 2014 and she walked every single mile with me. I recently wanted to walk up a very big hill in Wales and she was there too (see photos).

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I climbed this big hill just to piss my cancer off but I couldn’t have done without Chris x

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Ronny

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6 thoughts on “My right-hand woman – Chris

  • So agree – over the last few months my husband of 48 years has been my rock – listening, caring after my surgery, nagging sometimes but always there, they are worth a million prescriptions as are many friends and familyxx

  • Irene Dick

    Another aspect – when Angela had cancer she seemed so far away. We love in the east of the country and she lives over on the west. One of the hardest things was knowing hug may help her but we weren’t there.to give her one. Me being disabled didn’t help as I couldn’t just jump on a bus or train and go to her. Her now husband and his family were fantastic but we just felt it should be us helping. Sorry this is the first time I’ve put this into words. Chris I know what it’s like. Ronnie I think you are doing a fantastic job and wish you all the best.

  • Totally agree; love and care required for those who do the 24/7 care, often with many balls in the air, whilst the focus is on the person who is suffering from the illness. Perhaps it is worthwhile considering taking the carer for a pint or having her nails painted, whilst letting someone else visit the patient in hospital, who often finds talking to vistiors, who are trying to do the right thing, exhausting. Worth considering when someone you care for is seriously ill.

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